Conversation Topics That Will Make You an Extroverted Virtuoso

If there’s one thing I’m proud of, it’s my extroverted abilities. Over the years, I have had the pleasure of meeting a lot of people who hadn’t yet mastered the art of conversation. Most of my friends (and not to mention some of the people I have dated over the years) simply weren’t good at striking up a conversation. Especially when you meet strangers – whether it’s new colleagues or schoolmates, there is a sense of awkwardness in the air. However, there’s a pretty good way of fighting that – conversation starters!

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Why Conversation Starters Are a Good Idea?
Don’t Go Just Yet…

Why Conversation Starters Are a Good Idea?

I was so tired of going to parties or team-building activities and being surrounded by people who didn’t know how to start a conversation. As an alternative, I came up with a solution – two games I like to play with people who find it difficult to break the ice. The first one I call the 20 Questions game, which is more suitable for a first date or a deep conversation. You can take turns to ask each other 20 questions, or both of you can answer 20 questions you have already come up with. It’s a fun way to get to know someone on a date. Thus, if you’re sitting in front of somebody shy, they can feel relieved not having to come up with questions themselves and feeling like they’re under the spotlight.

The second game, for a lack of a better name, is called Conversation Jar. You come up with a bunch of questions, write them down, or simply print the ones below if you want to save time. Place them in a jar, bowl, cup, or hat, and take turns drawing from it. This will really untie some tongues, trust me! Depending on who you’re going to play with, I decided to give you some inspiration. There are over 300 conversation starters here divided into different sections – whether you’re a teenager or are in a long-distance relationship, there are conversation ideas here to suit everyone.

Conversation Topics for Dates

What is your favorite animal? What are three deep reasons you love this animal?
What star sign are you? Do you believe in astrology?
What do you do on weekends?
What is a favorite hobby of yours?
Would you rather go to a movie or go for a hike as a date?
What did you study?
Did you complete your degree?
Do you have any nicknames?
Have you seen Lord of the Rings? (I get asked that one every time)
What’s your favorite movie?
Are you a cat person or a dog person?
Do you have a favorite board game?
Do you like playing video games?
If you do, are you a console player or a PC player?
Have you ever traveled abroad? If yes, what’s your favorite country?
Do you speak multiple languages?
Do you have any pets?
Do you have any siblings?
Do you have a secret talent?
Are you good at any sports?
What is your favorite food?
If you could spend the day as a superhero, who would you be?
Are you an Android or an iPhone person?
What type of music do you listen to?
What is your all-time favorite musical artist?
What is your guilty pleasure?
Do you like to read?
What is your favorite book?
Are you a coffee person?
Are you a night owl or an early bird?
Do you have a morning routine?
What were you like in high school?
Do you have a favorite TV show?
What is your favorite restaurant?
What is your dream job?
Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
Are you more logical or more creative?
If you could date a fictional character, who would you pick?
Are you a good dancer?
Can you cook? What is your favorite meal to prepare?

Fun Conversation Topics

You have given up on society and decided to join the circus. What is your one big trick?
What is one thing you should never say at someone’s wedding?
What is the worst pickup line you have ever heard? (Mine was “So… what do you think about Trump?”)
When did you find out Santa doesn’t exist? What’s the story?
What is the funniest dream you have ever had?
Is there a weird combination of food you like but everyone else hates?
Are you good at impersonations?
Have you ever been on a blind date?
Tell a story of the worst piece of advice you have ever given to someone.
Tell a story of a really awkward school mishap.
What is a disgusting habit some people have that you hate?
Have you ever locked yourself somewhere?
What is your guilty pleasure?
What is your favorite word?
What is your favorite curse word?
What is a trend you can’t believe you followed when you were younger?
What is the silliest fear you have?
What was your worst date?
Would you rather be 4’5’’ or 7’7’’?
What is a useless talent you have?
Who is the funniest person you have met?
Who is the worst person to be stuck in an elevator with?
If you could date one celebrity of your dreams, who would it be?
If you could date one cartoon character, who would it be?
What was the absolute worst birthday gift you have received?
What is the best TV show currently streaming?
If your life could take place in the world of one TV show, what would you choose?
What is your biggest pet peeve?
If you could experience a video game, which one would you choose?

Deep Conversation Topics

What are the top three things on your bucket list?
What was your worst disappointment?
Have you ever felt betrayed by a friend?
When did you realize your parents’ advice no longer helped you?
If someone could give you the exact time, date, and place of your death, would you read it?
What book had the biggest influence on your life?
If you could bring back to life one person (and it could be literally anyone), who would you pick?
What is the most difficult thing you have ever done in your life?
What is your proudest achievement?
Do you think aliens exist?
Would your 8-year-old self be proud of you today?
Would you ever get married?
Would you ever want to have kids?
If you could, would you live forever?
Are you into conspiracy theories?
What was your favorite novel as a kid?
When you were a child, what did you want to do for a living when you were all grown up?
Do you meditate?
Have you ever done yoga? Do you enjoy it?
Are you a plant mom/dad?
Do you enjoy using social media?
Have you ever volunteered anywhere?
What is your favorite childhood game?
What is your favorite brand of car?
What is your favorite dog breed?
Would you ever own a Maine Coon?
Do you enjoy photography?
Do you have any outdoor hobbies?
Do you have recurring dreams? Do you think there’s any significant meaning behind them?
Do you think there’s a special meaning behind deja vu?
Do you think parallel worlds exist?
Do you think there’s a soul, or do you believe the human brain operates everything?
Do you think extraterrestrials visit Earth?
Do you think we will eventually be able to travel in time?
Are you religious?
Do you think there’s a greater meaning behind angel numbers?

Random Conversation Topics

Do you prefer popular music or unpopular music?
What was the last concert you attended?
Would you rather be able to fly like a bird or swim like a fish?
What color do you think best resonates with your personality?
Is there a place in the world that truly represents who you are?
Do you know your MBTI type?
What does your name mean?
Are you named after another family member?
Has anyone ever told you you look like a celebrity? If yes, which one?
If you could change one thing about your appearance, what would you pick?
If you could change one thing about your personality, what would you pick?
If you could travel to a place you have visited in the past, where would you go?
What is your Enneagram number?
Do you believe in personality tests?
What is your favorite comfort food?
Do you prefer sweet or savory food?
What is your favorite drink?
Do you have any tattoos?
Have you ever lived abroad?
Do you know your love language?
Which movie character do you think represents who you are in life?
If you could eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?
If you were stranded on an island and could choose one person to be stranded with, who would that be?
You have suffered through a shipwreck. You can only have three items of your choice with you. Which items would you choose?
You’re a double-identity superhero. Would you hide it like Spiderman or boast about it like Tony Stark?
Would you rather live in an apartment or a house?
Do you have any siblings?
What is your favorite book?
Oceans or mountains?
Day or night?
What is a language you love the sound of but can’t understand?
Describe your favorite breakfast.
Have you ever broken a bone?

Conversation Topics for Kids

What is your favorite book?
What is your favorite film? Why?
If you could shapeshift into any animal, what would you pick?
What plant would you shapeshift into?
What is your favorite movie character? Why?
If you could change your name, what would you pick?
If you could talk to a famous person, who would you pick?
Would you rather take a trip to the mountains or a trip by the sea?
If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
You’re omnipotent for a day. What do you do?
What is your favorite animal?
Are you superstitious?
What is your favorite school subject?
If you could travel in time, would you visit the future or the past?
If you could travel in time, what would you do?
Do you want to be famous? What would you be famous for?
What is your favorite season?
If you could have one superhero be your best friend, who would it be?
Which Disney Princess is your least favorite?
If you could have a pet, what would you have?
If you won a million dollars, what would you do with it?
Your parents tell you to choose your next holiday. Where do you travel to?
A genie grants you three wishes. What do you wish for (no asking for more wishes!)?
Do you know a funny joke? Tell it.
If you were allowed to eat one dessert every morning for breakfast, what would you eat?
If you could have one of the following at home, what would you pick: popcorn machine, ice cream machine, or cotton candy machine?
You have just invented your personal, brand-new ice cream flavor. What would you name it?
Would you switch roles with a parent if you had the opportunity?
Walking down the street, you find a wallet on the ground. There are several hundred dollar bills inside and an ID. What do you do?
What is the first thing you think about when you wake up in the morning?
Describe yourself using only three words.
If you could have a cartoon character as a best friend, who would you pick?

Conversation Topics for Teens

Would you want to be famous? Why and why not?
Would you rather have more time or more money?
If you could, would you live forever?
You just won the lottery! You have a million dollars – what are you planning to do with them?
Would you rather wake up as yourself at 13 or yourself at 30?
Would you rather explore the freedom of outer space or the depths of the blue ocean?
You turn into a mythological creature for 24 hours. What would you pick?
What is a good age to start dating people?
If you could be extremely good at one sport and live out a Cinderella story, what sport would you pick?
You have become famous for cooking a very special dish. What would that be?
You have a sponsor ready to pay for your next invention. They don’t mind what it is, and leave you to choose it. What do you invent?
Would you ever get a tattoo? What would it be? Where would you get it?
Would you ever pierce your ears? What about your belly button?
You have the ability to teleport for the next 24 hours. Where do you go?
Would you rather read minds or become invisible?
If you could magically control one of the four elements – water, fire, earth, and air – which one would you choose?
Who is a celebrity that you admire?
What would you name your autobiography?
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you choose and why?
Do you want to learn to drive?
Would you ever skydive?
If you could give your 8-year-old self a piece of advice, what would it be?
Would you rather go traveling with your friends or with your partner?
What do you like most about yourself?

Conversation Topics for Couples

What is a crucial thing that two people should know about each other before they get married?
What film makes you cry?
What is the best physical trait you inherited from your parents?
What is the worst habit you have inherited from your parents?
Which of you is more romantic?
What is a relationship deal-breaker for you?
Do you know your love language?
What is your favorite memory of being with your partner?
You have to choose – would you rather go blind but you cannot hear anything except your partner’s thoughts, or your partner cannot hear anything but become the most beautiful person in the world?
Where would you travel for your honeymoon?
Would you rather discipline with rewards or with punishment?
If your life were a movie, which famous people would play your roles?
You find a remote control that can pause, mute, move forward, and back in time. What would you do with it?
You get to pick one day to relive forever. Which day do you pick?
Time freezes for everybody but you two for a whole 24 hours. What do you do?
If you had to get rid of a holiday, which one would you choose?
What is the craziest thing you wish to achieve?
When do you want to retire? What would you do when you retire?
Have your parents influenced what goals you have?
Do you think technology has made the world worse?
How has technology impacted the lives of children?
What is one country you want to visit as a couple?
Would you rather go to a restaurant for dinner or order in?
What is your idea of the most romantic date?
Do you think everything should be split in half between a couple if one of you makes less money?
What is the most annoying thing about your partner?
What is the greatest thing about your partner?
If you could perform a song together, what song would you choose?

Long-Distance Relationship Conversation Topics

What is one place you visited lately that really made an impression on you?
What is one place you saw that you really wanted to show your partner but couldn’t because of the distance?
What is the longest time you have gone without sleep?
If you could create a holiday, what would it be?
If you could see each other right now, what would you do?
Who is the most annoying person in your life right now?
If you could become president where you are, what is the first thing you’d do?
What is a book you read recently that you enjoyed?
What is a film you saw recently that you absolutely hated?
What’s something that made you think of your partner today?
If you could send your partner a care package, what would you include in it?
What is the greatest strength of your relationship?
Are you happy with your current level of emotional intimacy?
When the day finally comes, how are you planning on celebrating closing the distance?
If a genie granted you three wishes right now, what would they be?
You have found a peculiar book in the library. As you begin reading it, you realize it’s the foretelling of your entire life. Reading along, you finally reach the moment in the book where you find it. Knowing you can’t change events if you keep turning the pages, would you continue reading?
Do you think maintaining your long-distance relationship has made you a stronger couple?
Would you still have a long-distance relationship if you lived in the eighteenth century and could only communicate through letters?
What are some things that really bother you about a long-distance relationship? Any way to fix them?
What are some things you want to do together?
Do you think it’s possible to just be friends with someone of the opposite sex?
Do you ever rehearse a video call beforehand?
Describe one another in three words.

Conversation Topics for Friends

Who do you think is the wild card in your friend group?
Who do you think will get married first in your friend group?
Do you think people have best friends?
When do you feel most authentically yourself?
Do you think a girl’s/guy’s true love is her/his best friend?
Do you prefer to hang out with extroverted people or introverted people?
What is your favorite party game?
Have you kept your New Year’s resolutions?
Are you a jealous person?
What is one thing that makes you see red?
If your plane was going down, who would you call?
What would you and your friend’s music band be called?
Have you seen F.R.I.E.N.D.S. ? Who do you think resembles you the most?
What is a funny story from your childhood involving a friend?
Have you ever taken a trip anywhere with your friends?
You are stranded on an island and you can only pick one friend to help you escape. Who do you choose and why?
What positive qualities in your friends do you wish you could embody?
Tell a story about a conversation with a friend that changed your life.
What is your favorite co-op game?
Do you enjoy playing sports with your friends?
Who has taught you the most in your life?
Do you think you can be friends with your parents?
What is one type of food you’d never share with anyone – not even your friends?
Would you rather be proposed to in private or in front of family and friends?
Would you rather have a lot of friends and acquaintances or just a handful of really close friends?
Are you a team player or are you super competitive?
A portal to another world opens up in front of you and sucks in one of your friends. Do you run after them or get the rest of your friends to join the rescue?
The world has been infected with a virus that turns everyone into zombies – even your friends! What would you do if one of them attacked you and tried to eat your brain?

Conversation Starters for Texting

Do you sometimes experience phantom vibrations?
What is the most useful app on your phone?
You’ve had enough of that annoying app! It’s about time you deleted it forever! What app did you think of?
Do you struggle with some of your social skills?
Do you think you can have a deep conversation over text?
Is it okay to break up with someone through a text?
What is the most awkward text you have sent?
Who did you last text? What did you say?
What is the last photo you sent in a text?
Have you ever dropped your phone on your face when you text from bed?
Do you think using autocorrect improves your writing skills?
Do you prefer texting because there’s no awkward silence?
Do you hate small talk?
What TV show would you recommend I watch?
Do you know of any fun co-op games we can play?
What song do you listen to on repeat lately?
Whenever you text me, I smile [insert shy emoji].
What’s your phone background?
What is your desktop background?
Do you listen to any good podcasts?
What’s a funny meme you have seen recently?
Do you have your phone on silent, or do you prefer to hear your notifications?
What are some favorites on your playlist right now?
Do you like TikTok?
Do you have a favorite restaurant? Can we go there sometime if you want?
Do you like plants?
Are you into online comics?
What is your favorite GIF?
How many of my questions do you think you can answer with GIFs?
If you could beat one world record, what would you beat?
Do you have any plans for the weekend?
Do you prefer coffee or tea?
Do you prefer to text or to call?
Do you think you’re better with words or real-life conversation?
What’s a great productivity app you’re using?
What’s a nice sports app that can track my steps that you might have heard about?

Don’t Go Just Yet…

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